Wordful Wednesday: 50 Years

A couple of weeks ago two of my favorite people in the universe celebrated their Golden Anniversary. My Grandma Rose and my Grandpa Verlin have been married for 5 decades. And get this…it’s a second marriage for both of them. How bout that?

So we threw them a party. Cause if you’ve survived 50 years of marriage you deserve a party!!

Anyone who has ever met my Grandparents love them. It’s hard not too. They are two of the most kind and generous and genuinely good people in the world.

What’s particularly amazing about their love story is how much they accomplished not only as a couple but as partners. They raised six children together and have around 20 grandchildren and 11 great-grandchildren. The two of them purchased and grew a small business from two employees (themselves) to a hugely successful business with dozens of employees. They worked together every single day (that would be enough to kill most relationships). They have traveled the world. And have built two different homes that feel like home to me.

They bring us all together as a family and remind us of the importance of staying connected.

And the kids? All love them.

But their love? Well let’s not sugar coat things. They are the most realistic and inspiring couples I’ve ever known. Because this is not Ali & Noah from The Notebook as old people in the nursing home. Here’s what I mean…

There is a whole lot of bickering. Cause old people are good at bickering. They’ve had years to perfect it and years to develop frustrations for one another’s habits.

There is a lot of nagging. Cause old men listen to old women less and less the older they get. Seriously. Old men listen even less than our husbands. That’s what we have to look forward to ladies…

There is frustration. Because once the bickering and the nagging haven’t been effective there is just frustration.

But there is also a great compassion and acceptance of one another’s illnesses and health concerns. There is no illness or treatment or surgery or therapy that they have not gone through together. Even after my Grandpa had a massive stroke and we all thought it was a good idea for him to be in a nursing home, there wasn’t a moment my Grandma would have accepted not being the one to take care of him. And if she has a fall or an injury, he is right there trying his very best to help her and make sure she is ok.

And in the end there is great love. Because if there wasn’t, all the nasty habits and frustration of 50 years would have made someone (aka my Grandma) homicidal if it wasn’t for the deep deep love that exists between them.

Maybe the most amazing thing about my Grandparents 50th anniversary is how it looks for those of us who are just starting out their married lives. Me and most of my first cousins are in the first decade (or so) of our married lives. So having this wonderful example of how to stay together and how marriage can work, is incredibly inspiring and important.

In our society, when so many people feel they can just pick up and walk away from the lifelong commitment they’ve made, my Grandparents are a refreshing and honest reminder that though not every relationship is perfect, there is more to marriage than silly, unrealistic Hollywood love. Marriage is about staying connected, being there for one another through thick and thin, building families and communities together and above all acceptance.

Because of my Grandparents I know that it is in our marriage Michael and I may fall in and out of love throughout the years. But I do know that with hard work, faith in one another and above all, love, we too can make it 50 years or more.

We’re so blessed to have them in our lives and so incredibly thankful that they’ve been married for 50 years.

How long were your grandparents or parents married? Who inspires you to do your best in the marriage department?

Happy WW to one and all!!

 

Comments

  1. Happy Anniversary to your awesome grandparents – your post made me chuckle about their true love (and all the other aspects)…so true! :) My parents got married when they were 15 and 16 – and just celebrated their 50th anniversary in March. :)
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  2. Oh, I love how you acknowledge the rough edges. I was not expecting that when I saw the topic. But it’s so true!

  3. Kat says:

    Happy 50 years to your grandparents. By the way I LOVE the name of your blog!
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  4. The picture of them kissing is so sweet! It is so important for us “newlyweds” to remember that marriage is not going to always be pretty or like it is in the movies – it’s so cool that you have a living example of that. My dad’s parents were married for something like 61 years when my grandfather passed away. That’s insane!!
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  5. angie says:

    What a lovely tribute to 50 years of married life, and what a wonderful legacy to their family!
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  6. Amazing story! You should do a documentary about them if you haven’t already done so. They are so inspiring (and cute)!
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  7. Jennifer says:

    Congratulations to you grandparents! What a wonderful

    You got me when you said, “Michael and I may fall in and out of love throughout the years. But I do know that with hard work, faith in one another and above all, love, we too can make it 50 years or more.” This is my wish for me and my hubs too! Isn’t that really what marriage is about? And how lucky that you have your grandparents as an example of how to do it and that it can work! :-)
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  8. Brooke says:

    How beautiful and honest! What great role models for all of you!
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